I am considered to be in the Generation Y group also known as the "Millennial".  I was Born  after 1982 and this is what puts me in that generation.
      Some of the key characteristics and beliefs/values of my generation would be that we are Tech-Savvy. We grew up with technology and use it often. We apply it in our jobs and daily life more the previous generation.  We prefer to communicate through texts and email. We are also classified as Family-Centric. We try to balance more of our work and life. Some believed this is a weakness that we lack commitment and value things different then it once was. Some believe we are  all about work and more about family.  Another characteristics we are know for as Achievement- Oriented. Which as i have read is kind of contrary to me. We are believed have been papered or coddled by our parents. They wanted us to not make the same mistakes as them. We are considers confident, ambitious and achievement-oriented.  We hey have high expectations of their employers, We like a challenge and are not afraid to stand up for what we believe even though other generations can perceive this as arrogance.  Generation Y wants our work to mean something and strive to have satisfaction. Even though we are also considered babied as i have heard, not only in articles but by my elders and in general conversation.
         I mostly identify with the Family-centered classification. I do value my job but I value my family more. It is more of a priority to me and something I value over my job. I feel that in life your money comes and goes. But your family can and you will never get them back. when you die you are your money doesnt' do with you. but your memories to other and your family doesn't live on. But this doesn't mean I don't value my job. I still am a very hard worker and take my career seriously. It's just if it came down to changing my job or moving for my family this would be what I would do for my family.
      What I do not really identify with is the part of my parents "coddling" to avoid me from making the mistakes of my parents. I have a strong work ethic have worked since I was 15 years old and I think this gives me an advantage. I have often heard my employers that they see a lot of examples of my generation who wanted everything right away. That the patent tried "protect" their children and gave them everything they wanted. This was in attempt to have them succeed later in life. I don't agree with this. I think you have to have to work hard and succeed you have to learn right a way. You don't learn by everything being giving to you. You need to learn the harder way to appreciate what you have. It's okay to help you children, just not make the assumption that they need to protect them for them to succeed. Hard work and ethics is what I  believe makes drive in a person and make them strive to succeed. 
        Some events that affected my generation's current beliefs and values are the changes in the economy. There have been more rough times and many changes. Not like the great depression at all but different then the Baby Boomers. We are learning we have to save more. People are living longer then they used to. We have to save more to assure we can afford the cost of living for when we are older. We realize now people are running out of money faster and the older generation my have a harder time now with going into homes and getting medicare. There is fear of not enough Social Security and forcing us to re-evaluate what we need to do to provide for ourselves and families in the future.
    All in all every generation is different. But I feel that your values you learned as you were raised is more influential and the others around us. Just because you are in a generation doesnt' mean you apply to all the standards. They never have for any generation they just assume the majority and that's what we are assumed to be.  But no one is every aspect of assumptions.

Skills for Groups

The Skills that I can offer my group include:

• Organizational Skills - I can help organize meetings or tasks and keeping papers and documents that we need organized.
• Leadership Skills - I can get everyone involved and will listen to everyone and get us all to work together.
• Dependability - I'm dependable I will always keep in contact with the group and make sure we stay on task and get assignments completed.

My Proposed Code of Conduct:

 If a group members are starting to argue and disagree I will try to step in and help cool down the situation. I will still make sure everyone is heard and gets the chance to express their opinion. Try to get everyone to at least try to be more open and give each other a chance to contribute. State if they are not wiling to work together we will have to address the situation.

My Conflict Rankings:

1. Compromise                
2. Competition     
3. Accommodate   
4. Collaborate
5. Avoidance

Conflicts

          One time I suppressed my feelings in a conflict with my boyfriend because as the argument was starting to get a little heated I realized I was not necessarily wrong; but going the wrong way about the situation. I needed to cool down. So technically, I didn’t suppress them right away but did so quickly after the comments were made. I believe this was a medium- intensity conflict where we both wanted to be right and win. This was privately and after the situation happened. The situation was I felt very strongly and hurt about the way my boyfriend’s mom was saying and treating me during a conversation with her. I needed to think about what and how I was saying things and possibly offending him. I realized he was getting very offended because I was cutting down his mother. I was very hurt and was saying how much she made me mad and always on me. But he started to side with her and I realized that I wasn’t going to convince him of my point. I apologized and said I shouldn’t have spoken about her that way.

The result of this was that deep down I was stewing about the situation and upset he didn’t see my point. I had realized that I should and could have gone about it a different way. But I didn’t bring it up again because I knew it was my fault for the way I confronted the situation.

        Going forward I learned to display more assertiveness when speaking of his mother or family.  I still needed to express my feelings otherwise I held them in and would blow up about the situation. But by being more assertive it helped us to communicate better with one another. I would get to say I how felt and was hurt, but I didn’t cut her down. By talking this way I realized my boyfriend was more open and understating to my feelings without him being offended thus we both got the results we wanted and where not be bitter with each other.

 

          A time when I didn’t stop and suppress my feelings was in a conflict with my friend’s boyfriend. He was also my friend.  I didn’t agree with the way he spoke and treated my friend. He called her stupid and said she always runs her mouth about things she doesn’t know.  It was very heated there was yelling involved.  We both felt strongly about our points. He felt it was his girlfriend and he could say what he wanted.  I got mad that not only he cut her down but that it was also in front of a group of our friends. Not that it would have been okay if he did it in private but that it was even more embarrassing for her.  We both were aggressive so it wasn’t solving the situation. I just felt someone needed to stand up for her. I didn’t back down because I didn’t believe he was right. It ended up I left the situation because there was no way either of us would win and he would not calm down.

        The conflict was never resolved and we don’t speak any more. I still keep in touch with my girlfriend and not him. But with her unfortunately its not the same. In hindsight I could have approached it in a different way and possibly addressed it privately not in front of the group. This may have turned out better and her boyfriend may have realized how hurtful he was to his girlfriend. But I think either way, with the type of person he was, he would have still been aggressive with me. I think it would have still ended the same way where we would no longer be friends.

Jilian Treasure's TED TALKS video

             I believe the main message of Julian Treasure's video is that people need to learn to listen and not just hear.  Really listening creates understanding. Without understanding there is miscommunication and this causes chaos in the world. It is not going to help any situation whether it is personal issues, communicating in your job, or communicating with issues worldwide. Also how listening should be talked about in schools because it is a skill that leads to the rest of learning.
        I agree with Julian, he studies listening and it's his life. Like he stated in the video he doesn't expect everyone  to be as extreme as he is but he wants us to walk away with more awareness of how we listen and how we can improve our listening. Also with the fact that we need to implement listening in our schools to teach children how to be a better listeners to be able to be better learners. This should be talked about before and during he learning process to help improve it. If we can get the kids to start with this the chances of it staying with them is much higher.
       The exercise I tried of Julian's was the one to sit 3 minutes in silence. It was weird at first I was just sitting in my living room, I started noticing  little sounds never really noticed. My fire place was on and the flame was clear and constant. I could hear a bird chirping out side that previously I didn't even hear or knew all morning it was out there. I realized after a while my mind started to wander and try to think and worry about things I need to get done. But I stopped and just told myself to stop thinking about other things and just be mindful and focus on just listening. Which was hard, my mind is always going a million miles a minute. But as it went on I found it relaxing and just to be quiet, not have background noise, and just be in the moment.
        I know I will use what I have learned in my everyday life. One thing I realised I do also from the learning plan videos is that in conversations while the other person is talking I'm thinking of my response and what I want to say when they are done. I need to stop this. I need to just give my full attention to the speaker, listen to everything, and let them finish. Then I can think of what I want to say after I have fully let them speak and express what they are thinking.  I know its not something that I automatically will do but it be something I have to work hard at. But I know its worth it to improve my own skills and make me a better listener.